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The never...endingingalingaling story!!

Last time I wrote...

I left off describing some of the high-anxiety adventures with the in-law's last fall; there was this problem that occurred when my sister-in-law married a man that proved to be...mmmm...for a lack of better words UNREAL! That may be taken literal. The reason I resorted to a big fat mouthy blog was because I had to be heard. HAD to! Things were getting out of hand and no one seemed to care! You could say that I was blogging for justice's sake, the only way for justice to be served. Here's how I see it, and how it should be understood (in case you're wondering why the hell I even care about this ridiculous situation altogether).  For starters, let me remind you that my husband and I tried to take this "personal" situation directly to his folks, because they were the ones who will ultimately be affected by Mr. Carbis' plan. I'll call it his "Estate Plan." Let me recap: the first few red flags that popped up were really what got the ball rolling.

Had he not sent this nasty little text to his ex-wife, maybe I wouldn't be so inclined to call him out on it! 

1. The cell phone plan belonging to Andy's mom, which his sister also shares (shared? who knows anymore) full control of the account (parents are too trusting sometimes) was changed and extended, unbeknownst to Andy's mom, when his sister added her new husband and step-son to the account, along with some upgrades to her two children's phones; this made it impossible for my mother in-law to change her phone plan when she wanted to switch carriers. What's worse is she had no idea that this was going on until the moment she was standing at the phone company trying to cancel her service! They were like, "no, you owe such and such amount". WHAT? I didn't like that too well, even if she's not my mom. It's just not right, ya know?! Yep! First smoke signal. 
2. The pick-up truck that Andy's dad left behind for J. to drive, for whatever reason, while they traveled the U.S. by RV (yep, parents are too trusting sometimes!!) was damaged while J. was driving it. Instead of J. fixing the damages himself, which he of course caused, Female J asked her father to fix the truck so male J. would have something to drive. Mind you, they are across the country at this point. Orange-colored smoke right there! Last word was that the a tie-rod was busted, the frame completely bent out of alignment, the entire drive shaft: differentials, gear-box, etc..destroyed. WHO DOES THAT to someone else' truck?! THEN expects someone else to fix the damages?! A real man wouldn't do that.. How could J. even think that my father  in-law would buy the story that he was hauling a load to the dumps when suddenly the truck broke down? Ummm, no. 
3. The house that J & J are now living in belongs to the her folks. Yes, the in-laws gave the newlyweds a nice little (rather big) set-up, thinking it would help the value of the house while they were away; rather than it sitting vacant for a year +. The situation turned fishy when these little lovebird "renters" started labeling the house the "Carbis Estate"! I don't know about you, but I have never called a rental property, nor my own parent's property, my own personal estate. That just seemed really wrong bad to my husband an me. J.J.'s have no intentions of ever leaving the Carbis Estate! When they signed a lease with my in-laws they were signing for a total of 5 people, one dog, one cat. J. knew in advance that he was going to end up moving his poor mom into that house, he just hadn't told female J the plans yet! The thing is, male J. lives off of his mom's social security and retirement. He "takes care" of her, because she has "Alzheimer's". When it came down to the wire, J. knew he wasn't going to move his mom into a nursing home (as he had previously discussed with J). He gave female J the sob story that he could no afford the cost of keeping her in a nursing home, therefore she had no other place to go. Gee, how convenient! Had my in-laws known that J. would be moving his poor mother into the laundry room they would have NEVER agreed to renting the house to them. To add to it, there are 2 dogs, and 3 cats...maybe even more. It was a classic J. move. As of last weekend, he told his ex-wife and her husband that he has already purchased that home. When she told him that she spoke with Andy and Erika, who made it clear that he had not purchased the home, J. replied with, "They just don't know. I bought this house in April". ..What does that tell you? He's telling his ex, the mother of the guy that lives with J., that he already purchased the house! This clearly states that J's intent it to never move from that home. He will pull all the stops to sabatoge the sale of that house! In his sociopath mind, he has the rights to that home. It is HIS estate.
4. The stories that J. has provided as reasons why he cannot work are ultimately impossible to believe. The story goes like this: J. served in the Marine Corps, sent to Iraq (possibly said Afghanistan), was injured by an RPG in war, had shrapnel in his head, close to a part in his brain that could, at any given time, cause an aneurysm and/or sudden death. He has traumatic brain injury, making it so that he cannot be upset, because it will cause his blood pressure to rise and he could die of a heart attack or stroke. Plus he has a conditioned caused by TBI that creates the inability to regulate his body temperature, that was a first for us! Never heard of that one! He can't work outside because he may get too hot or too cold. To top it off, his story was that he is still waiting for the VA to pay him, and they are trying persuade him to go for 100% disability, but he's fighting that. Oh, yeah, riiiiight. Plus, he is still waiting to receive his benefits. HUGE SIGN THERE! At that point, Andy and I both knew he was throwing the biggest pile of horseshit he could swoop up and chuck. The VA does not run things that way. We've been working with the VA for years and we KNOW how things are run. 
5. Before I go any further I will say now that the truth has surfaced about the extent of J.C's military service.  Through extensive private investigation and through military records that can only be accessed by the Department of Defense, dating back to 1980, we know for a fact that J. C. has never served a day of his life in any branch of the U.S. military. I am stating this knowing that if there was even a remote possibility I could be wrong, J. could in fact sue me for defamation. However, I know that it is absolutely factual that J. never served and never will serve in the United States military. He is an enemy to the men and women in uniform. J. is more of an enemy to the U.S. military than the terrorists themselves. Why? Because terrorists have an agenda that we all know and understand. They are out to kill. They pull no punches. Kill or be killed. Then there is J. and the people like him. Dirty rotten thieves who steal valor! They are the worst kind. The lowest of the low. To steal a necklace, or a loaf of bread, even to steal a car is more redeemable than stealing valor from those who truly have earned it! Those men and women who have sacrificed their whole lives, even unto death, for this great country should not be shamed by men like J. . The men and women who are still living with the effects of war right now; those who fought and were injured in battle dishonored by the likes of J.C. Finding out that J's whole existence has revolved around the lie of his military service really made things personal for Andy and for me.
6. The beauty school incident. Girls Girls Girls. Apparently he could not keep all those cute little sweeties out of his hair! They were "always flirting with J, they just think he is so cute!" I'm including that statement to show the kind of person he is. 'Nuff said. My daughter went to that same beauty school, and according to her , those girls called J a "creepy old fat guy."
7. The crazy ex-wife. This one really bothers me. Now it would naturally appear to an outsider that a woman who lets her kid live with her ex, move him from one state to another, gives someone else full control over the well-being of her child, etc. must be an uncaring, irresponsible, selfish mother. It would seem. However, due to an extensive background investigation into the past of J, I was personally able to meet his ex-wife Amanda and really get to know her. She is a kind, well to-do, humble woman who was clearly had by the same man who has won over my sister in-law. How can this happen?! Well, he preys on women who are in a vulnerable situation at the time. In Amanda's case, she was a divorcee' with a handful of children, very overweight at the time (although she is lookin' great today!) and who's self-esteem had gone down the drain...all it took was for a man to come along and tell her all the things she wanted to hear, making her feel like she was the only woman in the world, worth a million bucks, wine and dine her (even if it's with his mom's $$), tell her he has great plans to "take care of " her, you name it! That's all it took. It worked for awhile. After J's arrest and subsequent time in jail, Amanda's son (J's step-son by marriage, not legal dependent) was beginning to show signs of a "troubled teen", he was, after all, at the most complicated time in a young man's life. He had a lot of anger towards his own mother, perhaps because there was no father figure in the home, perhaps she had difficulty holding the position of mom and dad simultaneoulsy,, maybe it was because Amanda didn't allow her son to do whatever the hell he wanted, therefore he felt (as all teens do) unhappy being bound by typical rules. Whatever the case, Amanda put her son before herself and allowed him to move in with J' his mother. She knew that her son would have an easier time getting along with a man at that moment in his life. She saw that the school in Montana made her son very unhappy, even depressed, and she saw that her son was starting to improve his grades at his new school in Washington. She didn't want to take him away from that. So in short, she granted permission, which she did not have to do by any means, for her son to live with J. It was very hard for her, but she did it because she loves her son! Come to find out, the birthday cards that Amanda had been sending her son never reached him! The last time she sent a card she was sure to save the receiept from the $100 gift card that she included in the Birthday Card. When her son never received the gift card she went online to check if it had been activated. Surprise Surprise! It was registered under the name of J.C. Yes, he had thrown away Amanda's card to her son, stolen the gift card inside, and was stupid enough to register it in his name!!! Amanda requested a printout of the transactions from the Visa Co. and was able to see that the money was squandered at places here and there. The grocery store, gas station, etc. At that point, Amanda filed a report with the Cheney Police Dept. They may or may not do anything about this, but it's just not right that a man can get away with theft, even if it's little petty thefts here and there! It all adds up!!!
8. What is he doing for a job? He has opened a page on FB called "Spokane's Breaking News" He sits at a computer all night, listening to a police scanner, and reporting everything as it comes in. He told female J that he has a paid job for the Spokane News...yeah like THAT's going to pay. And truthfuly, what is he doing ALL night on the computer? How many people is he scamming, so tha the can bring in some type of income? He already stole from his own brother, his brother's own IDENTITY!!? Steals form his family...you can't put anything past this man!
9. I'm about done for the day, but please go back through my posts and ready about the MAFIA! In short, he claimed that he was in the Mafia, which led to his arrest, and therefore he is a felon...female J believed it all, hook, line, and sinker! The mafia!? Puh-lease! He had been the financial adviser for the big guy, I never found out which Mafia though, dang that would have been something if he had even lied about WHICH Mafia he was involved in. But you know, being Mafiaoso you have to be careful who you talk to. Anyway, he had to take the wrap for some bad checks, and got busted and went to jail. Female J told it to her mom and dad, and...they...bought..it! I literally cried when I realized they were so easily duped. How disappointing! So, they no longer felt that what Andy was telling them would be valid, even though Andy would never, nor has he ever, accused anyone of anything unless he was absolutely sure because of factual information. 
10. Hacking accounts! His ex can no longer get an account with Paypal or Ebay because J had accessed her profiles, set up fake sales on Ebay, had the money sent to a paypal then took the money without sending a product to the people. Not to mention I have a picure of his dick that he posted on the net. And he has solicited prostitiution on Craigslist, which his ex-wife had found through his inbox while they were still married. He has used family members names/social security numbers to keep his electricity turned on, because when he couldn't pay he would just jump to the next person and open an account in their name. The list goes on and on...not to mention he never paid his half of the rent to his ex-wife's mother while they were living in her house. The set-up he has at my in-law's house is eerily similar to the set up he once had with his ex-wife! And the woman he was with before Amanda!! This man is a parasite!!
11. PURCHASES his college degrees online! Yep, you heard it! You can buy diplomas online, did you know that?! J. C. did!!! 

By the way, I decided to put his name out there publicly because he is still living a lie, not sure which of all, but still some, that is factual. His troubles are not over, so I would like to issue this statement to Mr. Carbis, his wife or any family members that consider me malicious or evil for doing this:

People like J. do not have the capacity to change. They pretend they are better, that they're different now, but statistically they never change, they just move on from one person to the next. I'm sure it is very difficult of my in-laws to swallow that their daughter is being duped by a con-artist. A sociopath, lying, bilker who had already caused issues in the lives of other women in his past, and was just moving on to the next perfect target, which happens to be their daughter! The single, overweight mother, trying to make ends meet. He showed her all the pookie pookie wuv, showering with gifts and compliments out the ying-yang, and sickly stickiness and gooeyness attention ever needed to woo her, and of course...it worked! She married the guy! Did we know he was a criminal at the time, nooooo; she knew, but the rest of us did not. And to what extent she knew...no one knows but her. She isn't the type of person to really be personal with anyone, nor go into much detail about her life, so we will never know. However, we DO know that she definitely kept her parents in the dark about everything that might ever be construed as negative, because 1. They were moving into her parent's house, and 2. She of course wants to put out a perfect image of her life, I mean who wouldn't, right?! I'm not saying that I expect anyone should publicize their issues (although I'd be the first to do so) but I do think that a real person, who desires real and truthful relationships should communicate truth and reality, wouldn't you agree? Especially when it comes to dealing with your parents! The same parents who have been providing for you since for so many years of your adult life (and your children, and so on..); here I'm making generalizations, but they pertain to this case as well.

Well, that's a wrap. For today! 

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